luified:the luiboi experience

Sunday, July 08, 2007

More than meets the eye

A line from one of the famous franchises ever made…the Transformers. The movie adaptation of this cool toy line from the 80’s was really superb. Couldn’t ask for anything more, the story, visuals, cinematography, everything was great. This is could be pretty much the movie of the year! Just finished watching the movie (planned on seeing on last week but I was sick) but this post ain’t a movie review. This is something different, it’s about a talk I had w/ one of my female cousins. Our discussion ended up w/ about how ladies think of us geeks (I’m proud to be one).

We met at one of the many coffee shops in Makati. She asked to meet me bcoz of a favor she was asking for. We had coffee and she asked for advice as to how she could break up w/ her long time boyfriend. I simply told her what the last girl I had a relationship with (though I don’t know if that could even be considered a relationship). I told her to just keep it simple and painful. I told her not to beat around the bush. I told her that she no longer needs to say stuff like; “its not you, its me” and other crappy reasons that people give. I advised her to tell the guy the facts. She could point out things as to how the relationship is no longer working for both of them or may be she could tell him as to why she’s no longer happy with him or even tell him as to why she’s tired of their relationship. It may be brutal but it’s the truth. Nobody goes through a break-up without any pain; it’s a part of the deal.

I don’t know though if she would use my tips but at least I somehow helped her clear her mind ‘bout the ordeal she’s goin’ thru. I pity the guy. He’s not bad at all but I think the problem with him (which my cousin agreed) is that he’s your typical guy. I cant exactly describe it in words as to how he became generic but to simply put it you could refer to it as somewhat of a jock or a “coño”. Got nothing against them its just that you could easily classify them. They’re the type of guys who has a way with girls, has a car, likes to party,
hang-out at bars, gets laid every now and then, in other words they’re the type of guys that MOST women go for. They’re the type of guys that’s everything I’m not.

In your typical high school movie, you could easily classify me as a geek. I’m not that intelligent enough to be called a nerd and not cool enough to be in the clique. It’s a sad reality but I was able to live with it. With the help of my friends I was able to learn what it takes to be “cool” but still I was a geek by heart. People now see me as of those typical guys but its just an image. Im still that geeky kid inside and sadly when ladies knew about this more often than not they turn away. It doesn’t matter what you look nor what your attitude is once they know you’re a geek its over. This might be my opinion but it’s because it was based on personal experience.

Im a 22 yr old comic book collector and I’m considered as childish and immature bcoz of it. Why? Simply bcoz of comics? Its unfair to judge us simply bcoz of our hobbies. Yeah I’m a grown up but you couldn’t simply take away the kid in me, it’s a part of me already and I find happiness in it. You might say that I need to grow up but I beg to disagree coz I have already did. Im into comics but I wouldn’t put it first on my list of priorities, you know how to define a hobby right? Its simply a past time. I just don’t get it why most women don’t understand this. Most of them say that we should think about something else like may be our future, our careers, our lives and honestly I do. Its just that these women couldn’t stay long enough to see that we’re also capable of such. At first you would get long well, have fun, share stories and when it gets to the part where you get to know each other that’s where the problem occurs. It would be a BIG and I mean a BIG turn off once they learn your into kid stuff like toys and comics. They’d just simply stop there and think of you as a geek. They wouldn’t even give you the chance to see what you’re capable of. In the end they would even give it as a reason as to why you two could never get together bcoz of it. These women wouldn’t even see themselves with guys who are into comic books, toys, video games bcoz they’re rather be with “real men”.

Call me a geek, call me envious, call me bitter, call me whatever you want. I just wanna get this off my chest for a long time now. Its unfair for people like us to be treated like this. All im asking for is a chance to show that we could also do what you’re “real/cool men” could do and heck may be even better. We may be geeks but its not like we’d put comics or toys first before you. We are not like you’re typical guys who always find reasons to argue with you. May it be because of jealousy, your punctuality, your dress, or may be simply bcoz they need to bcoz they need to keep fuel the relationship so that it wouldn’t be boring. I find it crap. Why waste time arguing when you could talk more about live, love or better yet do something memorable together. I believe that problems help make the relationship stronger but you don’t need to create the problem, it would eventually come. When it comes that’s the time wherein your relationship would be tested.

Simply bcoz were into our hobbies it doesn’t mean were boring. It doesn’t mean that we’d only tell you stuff about comics, toys and video games. We also know about other stuff if you’d only let us. We’d only tell you about our hobbies if you asked us about it.
My point is simply this, I hope that you could accept us for what we are as much as we accept of you are, I guess you could call it respect, which I think is also an integral part of a relationship. Like for example, women smoking is not an issue for me. Smoking doesn’t define your character. It may be a part of your system, it may be a bad habit to break but I wouldn’t scold you like your parent would bcoz I believe you’re a grown up individual and you know it in you that its bad and eventually you’d fine it in yourself to quit. I just hope that you could also see us geeks in that aspect. That comics, toys or video games doesn’t define us; give us a chance to prove our worth, what we’re capable of and you’d see in the end that we’re more than meets the eye.

I sent an S.O.S tonight